Wednesday, 9 February 2011

Faces of Loss

The other day, I sent my story to an online community of other Mummies without their babies:
If you click on, you'll see me there. The picture was taken the day before our wedding. It seems like a poignant choice. Actually, it was the only one saved of me on my own. I'm not too pleased about the double chins, but that is a whole other problem.
I'm not really sure why I did it.
Pride maybe.
An out-stretched hands to others, perhaps. I did not think it would generate much interest at the time, but I've had some amazing messages from others in my sad shoes and they are all so touching and I intend to reply to each on my return.
Probably, the actual reason I sent Bear's story is that this online forum is another way of me staying close to him. Talking about him in total, blissful uninterruption.
The more I write about my baby, the more he is here.
Maybe that is wrong. But I don't care.


  1. Totally understandable. I found your blog through Faces of Loss, and, unfortunately, stand in your sad shoes too.

    I wish you nothing but great things to come. I'm so sorry for your loss.

  2. I found you through Faces too. It doesn't matter what others think of what you do, right or wrong, regarding your child. You are in your new normal. You need to find your own path. I, too, am sorry for your loss. I should have said that when I commented yesterday, I meant to. I'm sorry. Your Bear is beautiful xx

  3. Bear is and always will be a gift. One that undoubtedly makes the three of you special. I hope if you want, three will become four and more. My thoughts have been with you and I wanted to wish you both strength, courage and hope. In time, may you continue to savour the beauty of life. Tomorrow we'll celebrate my sister's birthday. Your writing helps many others too.

  4. juliana cassandro25 February 2011 at 21:04

    NO, it is not wrong Alice.
    You give someone like myself the opportunity to let you know how i have been feeling. Had you not done this you would never have imagined just how very much I have been thinking of you and the number of time i wanted to write to you but felt it inappropriate. Elio wrote a card and sent my love, but it didnt quite work. You have given me, juliana cassandro, the opportunity to let you know how very much i care about you, your husband and of course that beautiful baby of yours. xox

  5. I too lost a daughter KASEY at 37 weeks, sorry about your baby bear ;( its so true everyword about the broken heart,god bless xxx marie xxx